Do you ever feel like this? Sometimes I think I’m immune to happiness. Something always gets in the way of my feeling really good about life. What is wrong with me? Will I ever get out of this rut?
It’s hard to be happy. There’s so much standing in the way. For one thing, after every happy event something bad is bound to happen. We all know this. We know that if we’re too happy for too long, then we’ll surely pay for it eventually.
So we guard against happiness. We try to ration it out, to temper it with plenty of soberness and worry. This is a sensible, balanced way to live. Don’t be too happy for too long. Then no one will notice and try to snatch that happiness from you.
Such a sorry lot we are. There are no rules for happiness. There is no quota that we must be careful of lest we set our own little universe out of kilter. Our happiness does not make God angry or anxious. God would love it if we’d just relax and enjoy ourselves more.
I am finally learning that I need to stop regularly and ask myself what is standing in the way of feeling good this very moment. When I search for anything specific, I usually come up empty. And, no longer having an excuse to be unhappy, I enjoy life the way I should have been enjoying it all along.
If a happy moment comes your way, exploit it fully. Don’t let anything fill its space—no worries, no apologies, no contingency plans, and no guilt.
You indulge fully in misery, don’t you? Try giving happiness equal time.
A Little Prayer for the Next Step
Okay, okay, I’ll allow the happiness to come right in. I won’t try to make it leave early. I’ll enjoy it to the hilt.
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