Many of us agree that we struggle with life’s interruptions. In Monday’s post I theorized that we don’t like interruptions because they emphasize our lack of control over situations. Here at Loyola Press, we specialize in Ignatian spirituality. And St. Ignatius had a lot to say about attachment. When we are too attached to something—our income, our reputation, our plans, our control—this is called a disordered attachment. And disordered attachments get in the way of our spiritual freedom.
Do you want to become truly wise? Spend some time reflecting on your most powerful attachments. In my book, Days of Deepening Friendship, I suggest that disordered attachments are often indicated by fear:
Fear is a great indicator of disordered attachment because it focuses upon what we don’t want to lose or give up. Ask yourself now, When am I afraid? What situations trigger my fear?
What kinds of loss or change are most threatening to you? Can you spend time imagining potential situations that would threaten your attachments? (p. 123)
Wise women learn to let go of disordered attachments. We come to value the interior freedom we experience when we don’t have to be in control, when we can open ourselves to life-as-it-is, knowing that wherever we are and whatever is happening, we are held—and helped—by God’s love.
Next week we’ll dwell on what happens within us as we go through the process of letting go.