We can’t avoid making decisions—on some days we make scores of them! Some jobs require almost constant decision making. And some events and life transitions move us toward decisions when we don’t feel at all ready for them.
It would be nice, then, to go through a discernment process that will leave us, not anxiety ridden or regretful, but hopeful and in peace. It would be nice to be emotionally free to move on even after making a decision that was difficult and unpopular. It would be nice to approach times of discernment with faith and confidence rather than with dread. We probably drag around more anxiety and regret than we realize. Discernment won’t erase all of that, but an evolving practice of discernment will help us grow in spiritual freedom—while making the decision and afterward.
What is involved in a healthy discernment? How do you know when you are discerning more than guessing and hoping for the best? Do you remember decisions that emerged from wise and helpful discernment? If so, what made them good discernments?
When are you most likely to make a bad decision? How does prayer figure in when you are trying to discern the best option?
Next week, we will discuss this in detail. For now, please post your ideas and stories—the rest of us will benefit!