We’re conditioned to think of spring as a time of birth—a fertile, happy time. For many women, this is true; more of us have babies in our young adulthood than don’t. But it’s too simple to characterize the spring season by one or two functions. And it’s inaccurate to paint it mostly positive (or negative), when life during any season is such a mixture of things. We can delve into the issues of this season with just a few basic questions.
- In the spring of your life, did you have children?
- If you didn’t have children, how else could your life be characterized as fruitful and life-giving?
- If you did have children, how did their lives shape your own?
- If you were married during the spring of your life, was it a healthy marriage?
- If it wasn’t a healthy marriage, how did you carry out those “spring” years? What, besides the marriage, gave you the opportunity for fruitfulness?
- If it was a healthy marriage, how did it determine where your life went and what you did?
- In the spring of your life, did you embark on a career?
- If you embarked on a career, did it develop as you expected?
- If you didn’t marry, or otherwise partner up, during the spring of your life, on what did you expend your best energy?
- If you didn’t have children during the spring of your life, with whom did you share your gifts of nurture? In other words, what was your fruitfulness?
- What were (are) your primary “spring” gifts with which you bless the world?
For some women, these questions are quite painful, because we are given a script of what should happen in life and when. We are taught very early what is normal and right. Yet, one glory of spring is its ability to manifest in so many ways and in so many lives.
- What’s your take on the spring season of a woman’s life? What are its blessings, its challenges, its possibilities?
- Whom do you know who is in that period of life, and how can you encourage and support her?